Deep Held Emotions
Early adulthood through to mid-life.
My focus
I focus is mainly on those aged 25 and above.
I’ve spent years working with families, with children and adolescents, during their most difficult times of life.
Through this work, I uncovered a gap that many, who do not have children, limits access to supports. At the same time, I’ve seen parents raising children well but still carrying emotional wounds from their own past.
Toxic relationships & breaches of trust
Toxic relationships can often maintain its hurtful impact on us far beyond the experience itself. They can shape our beliefs, foster insecurities, and create memory loops known as feedback. These deep-rooted thoughts make it difficult to fully detach, heal, or move on, causing residual pain long after the relationship ends.
Family wounds
As adults, you might have unwanted thoughts about people who were emotionally frozen or lacked maturity, causing loneliness and unresolved pain. You may feel overly sensitive, blame yourself for emotional distance, or become numb as a coping mechanism. Experiences often shapes our future struggles. Even with success in careers, travel, or finances, emotional wounds might still linger. You're not alone, many share feelings of self-doubt, relationship patterns, or an unfulfilled void, regardless of age. Growing older doesn’t automatically heal these wounds; unresolved pain influences perceptions and choices. Changing emotionally distant parents is tough, and aging isn’t a fix. Healing requires self-awareness and deliberate effort, or false expectations will remain.
Our mission
Some of us who are in these spaces must navigate our own path forward, relying on our strengths and recognizing the resilience and beauty within ourselves. My mission is to try and offer the tools and support you to get to that point of calm , moving forward gaining the sense of inner freedom.
Emotional Wounds
Emotions & Feelings you might be experiencing:
1. Low Self-Esteem. At some point (present or past) you have faced constant rejection and criticism from those you trusted. This led to feelings of being less than, filling you with self doubt.
2. Issues of Trust. It could be you have been betrayed, and left with hurt.
Maybe people who were supposed to love you were dishonest. Maybe they were emotionally unavailable leaving you isolated and alone.
3. Guilt and Shame. You have felt hurt from manipulation, blame or gas-lighted.
4. Fear and anxious thoughts. Long term stress, thinking about current relationships. Or thinking about future relationships is scary and uncomfortable.
5. Automatic Negative Thoughts (ANT's) like "I'm not good enough" or "I'm not worth much" sneak in because of those emotions.
6. Emotions deep down: You put away thoughts and feelings of rejection and hurt, until they sneak up. Maybe you snap at people for little reason, or things can tip off frustration and annoyance or fear.
If any of this sounds like you then let's talk.
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Healing those wounds with informed-practice
Trauma-informed holistic coaching & counselling rooted in the mind-body approach, can be profoundly effective in healing emotional wounds. This is by recognising the interconnectedness of your mental, physical, and emotional well-being.
Focusing on the importance of integrating awareness of bodily sensations, emotions, thoughts, and your beliefs to foster a comprehensive healing process. This holistic approach not only promotes emotional resilience but also supports physical health, self-compassion, and spiritual growth, helping youto rebuild their sense of self and develop healthy coping mechanisms for long-term healing.
Here is exactly what I do, so we can work through it.
I provide a secure and supportive space where you can see me and open up without judgment, being the most crucial foundation. I am located in a peaceful and quiet part of Lower Hutt. It's easy to get to and very welcoming.
We work together to recover empowerment through healing. We examine you as a whole person, addressing areas of your life and wellbeing you may have neglected. Strategies to shift from coping to true living. Self-awareness and self-compassion are needed for this emotional transition which I guide you with each week .
We do this through what is known as top-down through to the bottom-up integrative method.
We look at your emotions, patterns and thought. We then apply reflective and cognitive tools in a weekly plan towards sustainable change and growth.
Why this work is my chosen passion
I entered this field over 15 years ago, confident and quickly advancing, piloting new programs and leading teams.
Then, a traumatic event changed everything for me.
With effort, I rebuilt from ground zero. I remember saying to someone I highly respect "I feel an old appliance that needs throwing out" Those were dark days.
I realised that family toxicity and childhood wounds can quietly affect us all.
Thankfully, with hard work, I came back stronger and wiser.
Though there was much I lost, there was equally as much gained if not more. The pure grit, self-determination and unconditional positive regard I have for others on this path has been an evolution for me in this work.
I don’t offer psychotherapy, and if that's what you need right now I am likely not your guy.
What I do offer is structured, trauma-informed tools focused on the present, to help rebuild a far better tomorrow.
Through both personal and professional experience, I understand that family and relationships aren’t always what society promotes as 'normal'. We can work together so whatever is hurting no longer holds you back. It may not have been family that hurt you, but someone else you trusted enormously.
I’ve lived it and came out stronger.
That’s why this is my passion, and that is why I want to work wth you.